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Showing posts with label friends. Show all posts
Showing posts with label friends. Show all posts

created wedding website for my friend!

Posted by redthil On 6/03/2010 09:43:00 AM

when one of my friend, Pradeep, asked me to create a website for his wedding, as always, the first thing which came to my mind was, it should not be like what we see these days, from the free wedding site creation "mywedding.com". I'm tired of seeing links to this site, when i read friends invite in email. So, wanted to create something different from those usual templates which are there in all these free wedding site creation websites. so, here it is!!!

http://ourwedding.pradeepavithra.com

The one thing i personally liked in creating this wedding website is, Pradeep gave me complete freedom of creating anything which i want.. the only thing he said was "i need a wedding website thala!!". And i know, i dont get such kind of freedom to create something like this, and this freedom gives you more motivation to think differently and tryout different things... and Million thanks to him for giving me this precious 'freedom'. "i hope i have done atleast a OK job thala!!!"

And coming to the technical part, jQuery! this site is completely built using this jQuery Javascript Library 1.4.2 (minified version). every component, every object you see in there, and every action in that site, is handled by those jQuery. thanks to the resources/plugins in jQuery.com .

now the tough part... what about the time it takes for loading this site? well... it seriously takes a while for loading all those images. and i had no other choice to use, other than images, since, i cant recreate those effects using text effects and also, when u use texts, its always dependent on client's browser.. so, to give a feel of what we want, images are the best one (had this been created as a flash site, these images would not have been needed at all). but tried to make the images as small in size as possible, without compromising on the quality of those images. but, once this site is loaded, it'll be a smooth navigation inside the site. since, this is wedding website, mostly it'll be accessed once or twice. its not like blog, where you visit more frequently. hence, this little more loading time, seemed ok for me..

so, how much time it takes for completely loading this site?
and these are the objects which is getting loaded in this website..



And Best wishes for a Happy Married Life Pradeep & Pavithra!!!!

Hi 2010 !!!!

Posted by redthil On 1/20/2010 03:13:00 AM

First thing first, Very Belated Wishes for New Year (for Tamil New Year too!!!). Its already three weeks passed in this year and yet no new posts here.. :( felt little bad thinking on that.. so hit new post link and here is a compilation of few (just very few) things which i did in this New Year (till now)..


Celebrated New Year with a delicious cake cutting at 12AM and more than that with my mom, bro, and two of my very close friends Chandrashekar & Raja. It was a very pleasant day to start this year. To add little more fun to that day, Me and my friends went to Oasis (my fav) mall that evening too...


On the second day of this year, attended MindTree's 10th Anniversary Celebration. Thanks to Shyamu'ka for her painstaking efforts in getting us the Passes. Had total fun and the highlight on that day was "Laughter Yoga"


This is the Second Weekend of this year and i went to chennai to meet my friend who is on her visit to India after she left for higher studies and also to meet my another friend in chennai. Had a fantastic weekend there, going to my friend's house (around 20km from outskirts of chennai, still they call that place as chennai), having lunch at her house, lil evening shopping in TNagar, B'Day celebration in Residency (many thanks to abirami for that) and having more & more fun there...


On the third week was one of my colleague Purnima's B'Day (wishes again to her), so as usual, little deco in her cubicle. Also third weekend came little early for me, as i took a loong break from work, extended vacations on both before and after pongal. Had a very leisure pongal this time, on hurrying-up to reach home on the pongal morning, and not much of concern for coming back journey also. Added with it, is the special Annular Eclipse, and two days of non-stop live action (in tv tho) of Jallikkattu . since me in DIET, had ONLY little sweets, pongal, sugarcane(s) and of-course home-food. total relax.

This is the status as of now, hoping for more and more fun in the coming days, And again, wishes to all, for this year to be yet another wonderful year in your life.

get married now - why?

Posted by redthil On 11/21/2009 10:20:00 PM

this one came during one of my casual conversation with my friend... it was little different one, but a practical reality... in this post title, i give little more stress for the word "now"... here is how it goes...


"
we might have had few friends in school,
  by the time we come to college,
    they become child-hood friends...


we might have had lot of friends in college,
  by the time we finish college,
    they all become golden friends...

but we get lot more friends,
  as we start working in company,
    as tenure in a company is temporary so are they...


but as we go around the world,
  we still have few friends left,
    whom we call as very-close friends...

and they grow older just as us,
  their priority changes just as ours,
    they get busy with their personal life just like us...


and why the focus just on friends,
  why not the respectable relatives,
    most importantly our parents and family...


our relatives are always there to make occasions special,
  they are there when we want them and also when we don't,
   i think otherwise for our day to day life...



our life is nothing without our parents and family now,
  but our journey is little longer,
    as they have arrived here long before us...



by the way whats this all about,
  nothing too complicate or intricate,
    'just someone to talk with at later part of our life'...


by no means its so simple,
  neither it can be taken for granted,
    nor it can be ignored...


now we're too busy,
  too many things happening to us,
    too little we get time to think about that...


now we have all those persons,
  whoever we like to talk with,
    whenever and wherever we need to...


when all these running-around slows down,
  just walking alone in the roadside,
    makes us feel like your life is hell...

when no one is around to talk then,
  its scary to even think of that,
    a situation worse than nightmare...


we cant get adjusted so easily to new person then,
  just to avoid that situation then,
    'get married now'.
"

My Thirupathi Thirumala Trip - Awesome !!!!

Posted by redthil On 11/03/2009 01:11:00 PM

Friday:
Started from Majestic, Bangalore in APSRTC Volvo Bus @ 5:30pm.

Saturday:

Reached Thirupathi "Srinivasam Pilgrim Amenities Complex" @ 12:30am



Waited at the Pilgrim Complex for 2hours, as the Toll Gate to Thirumala will open only at 3am



Reached Thirumala Toll Gate @ 2:30am



Waited for another 30mins searching for the bus where we can get place and ticket (there were more than 15 buses and 20-30 cars/jeeps lined-up waiting)



Reached Thirumala @ 3:40am and RAN towards the Queue1 downstairs, near the CRO office, for getting the SUPRABHATHAM SEVA ticket. (It was like sitting behind bars.)



Progressed from queue1 to queue2 upstairs @ 6am, and the waiting continues.



Little Prayers while waiting... caz they will be giving only 80+ tickets and since we were late joining the queue, we counted, analysed and finalised that we were really on the very border.



At 8:30am, we finally got the token for getting the Seva Ticket. (mannn.. after all these running/waiting/etc, holding these tokens, you need to,do it ,to feel it...)



Travelled to the next stop, in this Free Bus, and got the Accomodation which we have alreay booked in-advance.



After a breakfast @ Indian Coffee House and little rest , back to the ever-crowded streets to visit Thirumala Srivari Temple



And this is the First time i'm ever seeing this temple.. It was as awesome as the amount of people visiting this temple.



Very little relaxing time, before we kick-start the busy day time @ the huge stage where exact replica model of the Deity is kept.



First Stop - Visiting Shri Varaha Swamy near the Pond (the water was very clear). Waited for almost an hour there.



Totally exhausted on mostly waiting, we then waited for around 30mins to have "Free Meals". It was a damn huge Hall, where thousands can have food at the same time. And food was tasty too. Hats Off to the TTD for maintaining in such a good condition.


After lunch, direct bus to Papavinasam, around 30mins travel from the main temple. It has a small temple and a never-draining water flowing from top. It also had a small reservoir nearby, but no water at this time.



On our way returning from Papavinasam, immediate stop is "Akasaganga Thirtham". I believe there will be a sacred water stream running at that place, but this time, no water. :)



30mins walk from "Akasaganga Thirtham", is this temple for Lord Hanuman called as "Zapali". It also had a very beautiful natural pond, and this temple is in deep inside the forest, and you have to walk only. But the walk way is damn good with stone way reaching from the main road till the temple premise.



Back to our accomodation at 5pm, had little rest and attended my friend's wedding there at 7:30pm. Million Wishes for the Newly Married Couple.



After dinner, me and one more friend, went for roaming in the temple at night. Except the sunlight, nothing was different from the day time. People were running all around.



People were still waiting in the queue to have glimpse at the God, even at 10:30pm. And still it'll take atleast an hour for them to come out. Have never seen like this before.




After roaming for some more time, went to bed at around 11pm.

Sunday:


After 1 hour loong sleep, got ready and back to the queue, this time for having a nice closer look at the deity @12:30am.



After waiting for 2 hours in the queue (and we're the first people standing in front of the queue), showing tickets in the counter as it opened at 2:30am, running through the empty path way (otherwise completely occupied and people crawling thru that way), had a VERY CLOSE look at the Deity. About the SUPRABHATHAM SEVA, you get to stand just at the entrance of the 7th door, hear the Guru's chanting/singing "Suprabhatham" for almost 20mins, waking up the Lord (which equals waking up the World), and going through the 7 doors, stand inside the 1st door, have a look/pray to the Deity, come out of all the 7 doors. Truely Amazing Experience it was. (For me, i was tooooo eager to have a glimpse of the figure, who controls the faith of millions of people around the world. and not even a single nano second was disappointing for me in this Seva). And the Golden Temple Premise was making me more wondering to look at it. You really have to be there atleast once in your lifetime, to witness the Majestic Deity at His extreme Power to have such a huge following.



After an awesome dharshan, back to our room at around 5:30am. Had a little rest and went for the breakfast @ Indian Coffee House. This has become our fav place to have food there. (I really like the vada there)



Back to the streets again, starting another busy running day. This time we hired a vehicle, as we were running short of time, to visit few place there.



First stop from there was "SriVari Padaalu". This is the place where Lord Vishnu first landed on this hill and the foot is pointing exactly towards the direction of the deity in the Main Temple. This is considered to be the top-most point in that hill and the view from this place is awesome.



Next one was "Sila Thoranam" or "Natural Stone Arch" - A rare unique geological rock arch, aged 1500 million years, formed by a geological feature called "eparchean uncun firmity". Devotees believe that Lord Vishnu appeared through this as Swayambhu and took up His abode at the temple which is just a kilometer away.



A few minutes walk from there, is this place called "Chakra Theertham", full of rocks and little water body at the small temple.



After visiting those places, it was around 1:30pm, and it was getting late to come down to tirupathi. The Ghat Way is really nice one, trees, rocks and lots & lots of hair-pin bends. And these drivers know every inch of that, we reached thirupathi very soon.



We then visited the Temple of Padmavathi - Godess of Lord Vishnu, at Thirupathi, had lunch, started from Thirupathi @ 3:45pm and reached Bangalore @ 10pm.


And it wont be fair, if i dont mention my friends, whom i spent all these time with... here are they

From Left: Rajan, Bhanu, Bala

And this post is entirely dedicated to Bhanu. (Million thanks to you Bhanu)

raves

Posted by redthil On 9/01/2009 11:02:00 AM

Few very interesting, but TRUE, words i read today, in my horoscope....

" There is no guidebook that shows you specific steps to bridge the gap between you and anyone else, so you'll have to take a risk. Instead of opening the discussion with a know-it-all attitude, just admit that you don't have all the answers and are willing to listen now. "

learn to be backward/forward compatible...

Posted by redthil On 8/17/2009 10:55:00 PM

You might have heard about 'backward compatibility' in programming. for those who wonder what jargon am i talking about, let me give you a quick explanation. "In programming languages, backwards compatibility refers to the ability of a compiler for version N of the language to accept programs or data that worked under version N-1" (thanks to wikipedia). To explain it in English, its just a newer system, still be able to understand and communicate fluently with the previous old system. let me not confuse u more (hope u got what is backward compatible).

Lets now take a different route. lets talk about human interactions. when it comes to human, i dont like to measure the compatibility comparing with his/her own previous stage/version. Its measured between two persons, over time period or entire life. well, how do we define 'version's? i define it based on the person's experience, like, a person gets to a higher version, if he/she gets a sudden change, from which you see the same world little differently, which means gaining new experience. And the frequency of this version change is indirectly proportional to the age, whereas the version number is directly proportional to the age. By "between two persons", i'm not refering to just life-partners only, or to-be life partners only. This two persons can be related with any relationship, like dad/mom-son/daughter, lovers, life-partners, grandpa/grandma-grandson/granddaughter, or any distant relationships like relatives or beyond any relationship like friends. Also it does not depend on the gender of the two persons.

When two persons of same version has conversation, it always goes smoothly. The problem arises when there is difference in the version between the two person, or some version change happened just to one person among the two. The output of the conversation depends on how the communication between the two different version person flows. The lower version person (being in the modern world) may have advanced thinking and desires based on the present scenario. but still, the higher version person may reject your message, because its not sent in the proper way which the higher version person can accept it . So, instead of valuing your message, the higher version person simply considers the message from lower version person as invalid (which in lower-version standards, is very valid message). And the similar event happens when the higher version sends message to the lower version person, which is again rejected by the lower version person, considering the message as invalid. So, it always proves that, its always a problem when there is conversation between two different version persons.

So, Whats to solution to this problem? This has to be looked from two different views. First, from the lower version person: you haven't got/gained enough experience, hence you're in lower version. so, try to have "forward compatibility", by re-coding yourself in such a way to get the messages from higher version, decode it properly, and accept it if valid, otherwise, reply to that message in a way, which that higher version person can understand properly. Secondly, from higher version person: you might have got more experience, but some of which may be outdated. so, try to be "backward compatible", so that u can receive the message from lower version person, decode it properly, accept it if valid, otherwise, reply to that message in a way that lower version can understand properly.

When you consider yourself, you have persons with lower version, as well as persons with higher versions. Hence, to have smooth conversations/relationship, always learn to be both backward and forward compatible.

(I know. into too much of programming suddenly, may result in such kind of posts having stupid way of explaining things. cant help. please bear with me for some more time huh.. ;) )

Jump from Jungle Trek To Spiritual Walk

Posted by redthil On 8/16/2009 11:21:00 PM

I wanted to spend this weekend in somewhat different way. So, last week, i registered for Jungle Camp and Trek with one of the Event organizers called Unexplored Expeditions. And the interesting thing is, i will come to know the remaining persons only when i meet them at the camp site. Adding to that, Undisclosed Place made this one more interesting and look forward for. So, all thru the week, i was preparing for this both mentally and physically. Everything was absolutely fine, until i received an sms from the organizer Karan, at 8.30pm, Friday (we were supposed to start at 3pm saturday) that the camp is cancelled "due to officials facing some technical issues in the forest". Mostly with the Electronic fencing i suppose. Since got metally prepared to go somewhere out this weekend, this was kind of disappointment for me. Just replied to him "ok" with one sad smiley. Next question was, what to do this weekend now?

Just at that time, my friend's plan of going to Thivannaamalai flashed in my mind. Called my friend thilak immediately and confirmed my participation. Thilak and three of other friends Arjun, Anbu and Vijay, started that same night, so that they can sleep for a while in a hotel there, take ample amount of rest before starting for the walk. I joined other 4 guys, Shankar, Shiva, Venkata and Srikanth, and started yesterday (saturday) morning at around 8.30am from bangalore. It was quite a nice journey of 6hours, except the two movies 'Ayya' and 'Maayi' and also Shankar, the expert in this Giri Valam, getting high temperature. Hence, as soon as we reached Thiruvannaamalai, Shankar headed back to Banglore immediately (The fear of H1N1 has affected people much more than what i have thought. come-on guys, its just another Flu, except that, if you have any other diseases already, then you need to fear. Otherwise, its absolutely nothing to be worried. come out of the myth)

We all had lunch and took little rest for few minutes, and we started. Most of us decided to walk on bare-foot, except Vijay and Shiva deciding otherwise. We started marching towards the Temple. Having the expert returned to bangalore, we just moved towards the Gopuram (Entrace Tower at the temple), without knowing the way. We reached the temple, and thus my photo session started, not having belief in God, whatelse i have interesting there, except taking pics of those awesome structures. just enquired the security gaurd at the entrance, whether i can take pics inside (caz most temples dont allow that), and got a very positive reply of 'Yes'. Was really happy to hear that, and started clicking. We started visiting every shrine in that temple(the main God is Lord Shiva and Parvathy).

You can read the full story of our visit there with pics @http://picasaweb.google.com/redthil1/Thiruvannaamalai_Giri_Valam_15082009#. Will try to pen down only stuffs other than those in that album.
As we entered the main shrine, where photography is not allowed, my main responsibility is to group all those ppl together. caz there are many God's in that Tier Three, main shrine, each one went to or spent different times with each god. So, had to keep track of who went where and assemble them once they are done. after around two hours of spending time there, at around 6, we finally came out of the temple and as refreshment, all had cane juice.

Next is GiriValam (Giri-Mountain, Valam-Going around), The Spiritual Walk. This walk is for 14km and also without wearing any footwear, ie with bare-foot. This act of walking with bare foot around the mountain has been performed for ages, and considered to be very holy. (for me it was just another adventure of walking in night for 14km with bare foot ;) and spending time with friends). We started from the temple for this girivalam at around 6.30pm, enquiring abt the way (since few distance we need to cover inside the town, which is for sure confusing). Once we reached the main way, we were very clear. its the main road, connecting this town with other places. hence the road was lit with the vehicles light most of the time. We could also see few of foriegners doing this. We stopped for our first break at arund 4.5km. Vijay and Shiva were person leading us from front, caz they were wearing slippers. And the rest of us scattered into group of two/three. so, everytime we stop, we wait for the rest of the people to join and then leave. On the way, there are many temples, each having specific type of 'Lingam", like Vaayu Lingam, Gubera Lingam, etc. there is one temple where there are 9 such Lingams, and hence that temple is called as "Nava Lingam".

Just around 3km to end this walk, there is this temple called "Idukka Pillayar Kovil" (Idukka - Less Space). The reason to mention this specifically is, this temple has only one big stone, having little opening across. The belief is that, if they could pass through that hole and come out the other end, then all the diseases they have for this 'Jenmam' (Life) will get cured. And our guys, recently having H1N1-mania, went thru that twice.. ;)

We finally ended our Holy Spiritual walk at around 9pm, had dinner in a hotel nearby to that temple itself, caz everyone felt so HARD and painful to walk more, and took auto to the Lodge. Had rest for some time, freshened up, started from there at around 11.30pm (saturday) and reached bangalore by 5am(sunday).

Thanks to each and everyone (we missed u dragon).This was really an awesome trip for me. First and foremost, spent lot of time with friends, then , enjoyed clicking, went to new place, wondered the architecture, most importantly, went for a walk of 14km bare-foot. Its was little tiresome caz of the fulltime journey in Govt. Bus and little hard on the legs caz of walking bare-foot. On the Whole, a very new and different experience, enjoyed a lot.

Bourbon Ad…. in Rajani.. err.. Redthil istyle

Posted by redthil On 8/06/2009 02:59:00 PM

A Snippet from one of my friend, DD a.k.a Deepa's blog... i think she started writing blog, just to damage me... :) but still i liked it very much... very well written and explained. Thanks a ton for this DD. Hope there is nothing else in stock like this :).

"He threw it in the sky… upon which the packet opened by itself and the bourbons lined down into Redthil’s mouth…. After showing the entire packet the way to his stomach, our super hero was all ready to show the robbers their way to heaven…."

"So Thalai’s makeover is like this…. A bright blue..........................................."


But Sincere WARNING to all who would click here to read the full post:
Please put your imagination skills to rest. Never ever try to imagine the image portrayed/explained in the Makeover part of that post.

A friend is someone who…

Posted by redthil On 8/04/2009 06:10:00 PM

Belated Friendship Day Wishes to All... Thanks for all your wishes too... just was out-of-station... but, i spent this year Friendship Day with two of my most dearest friends of all time. Also, it would be unfair, if i dont mention and thank "201" (probably, i wuld call u with this number, than first alphabet), so, thank you very much and have fun always 201.

Also found a little quote/poem/message... i believe every sentence, every word in this is absolutely true. Enjoy It. Experience It. Be It.


A friend is someone who…

Is concerned with everything you do.
Is concerned with everything you think.
Calls upon during good time.
Calls upon during bad time.
Understands whatever you think.
Understands whatever you do.
Tells you the truth about yourself.
Knows what you are going through all time.
Refuses to listen the gossip about you.
Supports you all the time.
Does not compete with you.
Genuinely happy for you when things go well.

Orkut Vs Facebook

Posted by redthil On 7/31/2009 02:50:00 AM


When you say "Online Social Networking"(OSN), these are the two main sites which strikes to our mind immediately, Orkut and Facebook. The main advantage of these OSN is, it facilitates people to be in touch at anytime/anywhere/anyone whom they want to. I can always see people preferring one over the other. Only those who're almost an OSN Addict, prefer both. So, what makes people choose one over the other? By "choose" i mean about "how active" they are in those OSN site. Here are few points, which i think 'mostly' decides or influences the preference of one over the other:

> Geographic Location: Though Orkut is popular in 'almost' all part of the world, even now we can see people in India having a certain Orkut appearance, before even they move to or even decide to tryout 'global' Facebook profile.

> Privacy: Though we decide to open ourselves in this world-wide-web, most people still prefer to close the doors, on certain details. This even extends to how your information is shared among other users in those communities. In this context, I believe Orkut offers more privacy options (which also limits its ability to be a 'complete' OSN) than the 'Complete' and 'Open' OSN Facebook.

> Target Audience: This basically depends on how you decide to share information, to whom to share and when to share. Information can be anything from what you're are doing currently (like 'i'm goin for a coffee') to Job Seeking/Vacancy details (in this recession time, i believe this is the most critical/essential information which you want to share/get). Whom to share refers to the group or number of persons/friends to whom you want those above said information to be shared/reached. When to share here refers to how frequently you want the information to be spread to all those whom you choose to share. So, If you want the whole people in your Friends List to get the information, very frequently, with an option of them to comment on your information, you will certainly go for Facebook than Orkut.

> Other Applications: In this completely stressful daily schedules, most people also want some entertainment (basically to time-pass) along with the OSN. Playing short and interesting games is one of the major time-pass people expect (as most people into this OSN are youth). In this quarter, Facebook definitely wins with total majority against Orkut (of course, Orkut also has applications, but i dont think not that popular as in FB). Now, Quizz-o-Mania is also spreading in Facebook like bacteria. This also includes, how much integration is allowed with other web 2.0 applications (like twitter,etc) or other sites (like flickr, etc) and the amount of customization that can be made.

The above points are not listed according to any importance. Each individual gives priority to one over the other point, which mostly decides on which one he/she chooses (choose - most active). Other than these points, i think all the other functionality/options are fairly same in both Orkut and Facebook. And as mentioned earlier, few OSN Addicts, choose both. Whatever OSN you choose, be sure to keep in touch with the people who adds value/meaning/happiness to your life. Have fun.

This one is for you!!!

Posted by redthil On 7/31/2009 12:52:00 AM



Just heard this song very recently from one of my friend here in my office. It just took me to those awesome trip days... Miss u frenz... Have fun whereever u're...

And to you my friend here, checkout this url http://www.cuppycake.com. hope u'll get what u were looking for in this page (if u hav not got it till now).

I'm Banned!!!!!!!

Posted by redthil On 7/14/2009 02:16:00 PM

Its really interesting (most of the times), that over past some time, there are few words which i'm banned to use by my very good friends... few are banned just for them, and few banned totally to be used at all. Here is the list of few of those...

> freeya vidu
> pattaya kelappu
> periyaalu
> appaavi payyan
> poor kid
> diet

And the tough part is that, these are the words which i often use. So, its really interesting and challenging thing, to not to use, that too only for specific persons. But, i'm enjoyin it, and trying to keep this out of my usage vocabulary. hope i can do it for ever, caz i hope i can fulfill atleast this small wish of them.. :)

Are we really busy???

Posted by redthil On 7/13/2009 10:32:00 PM

The latest buzz word which i hear often these days is "busy". its either "i'm busy" or "i thought you're busy".

First, when will you say that you're busy? or how can you identify whether we're busy or not? My answer for that is plain and simple, when you haven't spoken with your friend for 'long time' (and the time-period for that 'long time' varies based on person to person). The reason for me to use 'friend', than any other relationship, is just because, you've the total freedom with friends, its neither a 'duty', which is the case with parents and relatives, nor 'mandatory', which is the case with your other-half or lover. you have the entire control over, when to talk to your friends, and also whom to talk, in that big list of friends. And all these absolutely out of your own personal INTEREST.

Well, just for a moment (tho i was observing about this one, for over some time, say about two months exactly ;) ), lets think of "how busy i'm?". In 24 hours, just remove 8 hours for sleep (and the time spent with your other-half), then 8 hours of work (this should be re-considered, but still lets have this 8hrs include chatting and moving along with other friends at work place.. but these days, this also includes lot of time of talking to your other-half or lover). So, remaining is a solid 8 hours, in which remove 4 hours for food and travel (roaming around or the time spent just for going one place to other). Then, 2 hours for 'duty' or 'mandatory' calls. After all these, we have 2 long hours daily, which is completely within our control, on how to spend that time. It may be for playing, reading, watching tv, etc, etc. But still, considering 2 hours daily, which accumulates to 14 hours a week (considering weekends also has a similar schedule, wherein instead of work, you spend in some other way, just as engaged as you're in work, so that you're not able to talk to your friend). Just wondering, in these 14 hours, cant we call our friend atleast once?? atleast say hi, hru, etc, etc??? ya ya. agreed to the fact that, you have pretty looong list of friends. but, i'm sure that, not all people are in the same level. We'll definitely have priorities for one over the other. So, cant we call atleast to them?? i think, WE CAN.

Finally, let me try to decode on, what makes us really 'busy' that we dont get time to call friends? (i hope you have read the mandatory above para, and hope you understood that we're really not busy) My answer to this question would be, just simply, because of lack of 'interest'. "Lack of Interest"!!!!!!! if you're wondering what that has to do with this, let me explain it little briefly. if you say someone as friend, there is something (or some quality) in them, which made you to be a friend with them. And also, you may have become friend accidently (not only love comes accidently, friendship too), but having an interest in talking to them, have kept that Friendship alive. So, Once that Interest gets affected, and it gets degraded, or if you have totally lost that interest, then You'll never ever get free time to call your 'friend', and you'll always be a busy bee to your friend. But, how does that 'interest' gets degraded or lost? I'll attribute this degradation to Two main things:

First and Foremost one is, "EXPECTATION"s. This is one big thing, and is the major cause for this degradation. We expect our friend to behave/react in someway, and our expectations are not met. degradation does not start immediately. once the disappointments gets accumulated, it slowly eats away all our interest in talking to the Friend. Also, there is another scenario, wherein, we expect our Friend to call us, and in the same way, our Friend wants us to initiate the conversation (basically, the so-called EGO, hidden shadow in each one of us). Ultimately, this tug-off-war continues, for ever and ever and ever. And one more thing is that, we expect or rather, we think that other person is busy and your friend thinks you're busy. here too there's a deadlock. i don't think your friend will ever get disturbed by your Hi. so, never wait for the other person, just go ahead and say Hi. (for all of you, a BIG 'Hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii')

Second one is, our Friend's "ACTION"s. This is when, the other person does something, when we have no expectations, but that action somehow makes us feel little bad/sad. The one common thing which we can find in most of the person is, Talk with Friend ONLY when we need a favor from him/her. And when you realize that, the person you think as a Friend, talks to you only when she/he needs something to be done by you, it really makes a huge crater in that "Interest". you wont feel like talking to that person, with the same interest which you had previously before realizing that fact. And also, when you realize that the other person talks to you, just for the sake of talking, which otherwise will make a not-so-good name for him/her, not with any interest in talking. Though these actions from the other person reduces your interest in talking to him/her, in both the cases, its you who have to decide the next course of actions. There is this one other kind, called "Indirect Action", wherein, we just conclude that the other person is not interested, indirectly. examples may be, like not picking calls, no replies for 'many' msgs, or prepared for not talking to you, etc, etc. all these indirectly means the same. tho this may be temporary, it still makes considerable impact in the interest factor.

Whatever the reasons are, the point i want to make here is, Its just that Interest, which keeps the conversation going on, which fuels and keeps Friendship alive. So, never let anything to affect that little interest. And once that interest is always there, You'll definitely feel that, "I'M NOT AT ALL BUSY"

The Expected "Unexpected Weekend"

Posted by redthil On 6/01/2009 05:50:00 AM

"Absolutely Awesome" - are the words which i would use to describe last weekend. Lot of unexpected things happening around. Deciding to go to Wonderla again (for the fifth time in 3ree years) on the evening of friday was the start for all of those (thanks to all those who were part of it). Then followed by the MAJJA RUN - Sunfeast 10K Bangalore Marathon.. Was very nice to see lot n lots of ppl, if not running for the timings, all running for cause(s). Followed by Beautiful Brunch in one of the oldest restaurant in bangalore "Airlines Hotel". Coming back to home, completely glued to the TV. First, Italian GP - what an evenful race it is, total re-shuffling in the order after the last pits-stop, finally (my fav) Stoner with Stunning victory to come back to the Top in the Table. Then its over to RG. I just switched to it, when Nadal was about to loose his first set 2wo-6ix, then couldnt change the channel at all, Crowd cheering Soderling (even when the world No. 1ne was in the court), and he proved to them, by creating history, which Federer failed to do in last four year RG history. When Nadal was in final set, i saw the scores of other match where Ana was playing, Ana lost her first set 2wo-6ix and was down in second set 2wo-5ive. oops... just needed another 2wo games for Azarenka to beat Ana. So both the Defending Champs out of RG now. And remember, Djokovic is also out. All left in the top of the table is Federer. Hurray....

For past many months, i always had plans for weekend fixed days before, even iif i'm goin to be in bang and taking full rest, i would know in early that i'm goin to do so. Last weekend was not so. This was the kind of "Unexpected Weekend" which i was expecting for looong time, for me to get refreshed. Full fun, unexpected turn of events, and relax too. i was awaiting for such one , and finally got it. i cant expect more than this. rather i wont expect more than this.

I'M BACK...

Posted by redthil On 6/01/2009 05:26:00 AM

(From what???) actually, for past few (3ree) months, i (my life) was kind of out-of-focus one. few (not to be bothered) things were creeping my memory. i was in kind of war (with my mind, memory, everything) to do 'shift-delete' of that crap. It always Abended (Abnormal End - lil remembrance from Mainframe coding) with "Cannot be deleted permanently". So, finally found the solution, after this (one sided) long war. No - didnt manage to deletely permanently. Found an (worthy) alternative. Managed to delete it to Recycle-bin and clear the cache too. Tho its not out of my memory completely, its not in the region where it'll be accessed often. Thats the reason, for me to tell boldly that, "I'M BACK"

(So what???) By any chance, if you feel like, i have, not talked to you, or not called you, or not replied to your call, or not msged you, or not replied to your msg, or not pinged you, or not replied to your ping, or not replied to your comments, or didnt disturb you.... tons of apologies from me... me confident that it wont happen again. you can see me back in form now. me totally (re-)charged to bug you all. see ya...

Frankly Speaking - Answers... Again!!!!!!!!

Posted by redthil On 4/27/2009 07:35:00 AM

i think this time, a lil tough ones, than the previous one. most of the questions, i'm thinking it for the first time.. so, tried to be as frank as i can be.. anyways, enjoy...


1. If your lover betrayed you, what will your reaction be?
Go for an outing, leave ur sadness (if any), come back afresh...

2. If you can have a dream come true, what would it be?
Always had two types of Dreams.. Short & Long Term... If Short, like getting an mobile or lappy or SLR or Car (My 4 GFs, impressed 3, eyeing on the 4th one) , i would make sure that money is not just wasted in those... If Long, like travelling into outer-space, i wont return... ;)

3. Whose butt would you like to kick?
i have to practice yoga and aasanas for that...

4. What would you do with a billion dollars?
4GF is still left for me... and of-course Long-Term Dream.. Waiting for you to give it to me...

5. Will you fall in love with your best friend?
May be.. But for sure, my lover would be my best-friend from then.

6. Which is more blessed, loving someone or being loved by someone?
i would rate 2nd as more blessed. whatever it is, someone is blessed.

7. How long do you intend to wait for someone you really love?
Until my parents find "someone" else.

8. If the person you secretly like is already attached, what would you do?
Same as Question 1

9. If you like to act with someone, who will it be? your gf/bf or an actress/actor?
"All the world's a stage..." - i always keep this in mind.

10. What takes you down the fastest?
whatever it may be, someother thing will bring me up thousand times faster than that.

11. How do you see yourself at this time ten years down the line?
In some part of the world, definitely not in India, playing with kids in swing.

12. What’s your fear?
I always fear on what will make me fear.

13. What kind of person do you think the person who tagged you is?
One - Expert in cooking, atleast prepares nice dosa.
Two - who likes to see everyone around him, be happy, like how he is.. :P

14. Would you rather be single and rich or married but poor?
try both... but always, a Poor Kid

15. What’s the first thing you do when you wake up?
make sure that i switch off my alarm before it shouts, so that it wont wake my brother.

16. Would you give all in a relationship?
i would like to know what 'all'? and in what 'relationship'?

17. If you fall in love with two people simultaneously, who would you pick?
its always sequential you kno..

18. Would you forgive and forget, no matter how horrible a thing someone has done?
All i need is, refer: Question 1.

19.Do you prefer being single or having a relationship?
Again, 2nd.

20. List 2 people to tag.
Chandrasekar (want him to start bloggin again)
Harsha (macha... enjoy maadi..)

7 things about My Goa Trip

Posted by redthil On 3/30/2009 10:42:00 PM

1. I like the nature's beauty and treasure, when its hidden.
2. Sea - Beach - Sand - Water - Stars - Moon - Boat - Cards - Activa - Jamun - i luv every bit of it.
3. Don't Care Attitude - Not me.
4. Shop owners - need to learn to give preference to Indians too.
5. Night Life!!!! I like it.. but don't want to live it.
6. Adventure - Not just in water sports, every second of the Trip.
7. Whatever, Whenever, However - If Friends are around, Fun and Fun Only!!!

8 - thanks to every one of them.

Finally He Got It....

Posted by redthil On 3/09/2009 10:31:00 PM

Congrats to my Dearest Friend, Chandrasekar, who finally got his passport,
after long time struggle,
after all the confusions between the two state authorities,
after his application getting rejected for not once - but twice,
and even his tatkal application getting rejected because of his previous application didnt go through verification,
after several air travels between cbe and hyd,
after all those pain taking enquiries and contacting various offcials,
after all those frustrations on trying trying trying nd trying to get this thing done,
after letting go his opportunity for Onsite (dont worry, u'll get one soon).
his patience, attitude of not stepping back and good support from his parents, has made this thing done done.

Finally a big relief for all his efforts, and a big relief for all of us too, on hearing that , Finally He Got It...

Balloons Balloons!!!!!!!

Posted by redthil On 3/06/2009 09:12:00 AM


First & Foremost, Happy B'Day Pradeep!!!!!! And thanks for the wonderful treat @ incHara. and apologies for forgetting to take my mobile phone, hence couldnt take any pics yesterday. :(

Let me come to the topic now. Balloons!!! this stuff keeps me joyous always, whenever i have a glance at them. Even a tiny one makes a HUGE smile in my face. and imagine, if there are plenty, i mean Plenty, of BIG balloons in cubicle. Wow!!!!!!! that too, of your fav colour, ReD. Ya.. this was the theme for decorating Pradeep's Cubicle, on his B'day. Full of Balloons, red ones, big ones, always luks like its about to fall on you... So, me and Venkata (special thanks to him) initially started with small balloons, which does not look nice at all. We went for Balloon Shopping in nearby store, and got BIG ReD Balloons. Though Venkata got a Hand-Balloon-Blowing-Pump, I didnt want to use that to blow up these Balloons, as i luv blowing it myself. Since Venkata didnt have his dinner, he went for having dinner after this lil Balloon shopping. In the meanwhile, just blew around 30 balloons, in about 40 mins (my personal record. Don't remember the previous record though :) ). Then it tuk little while for we two decorating Pradeep's Cubicle, with blasting up around 10 balloons in the process. The security in my floor had tough time standing-up and sitting-down, everytime a balloon blasts. so, All went well, and its done done from our side.


It was yesterday, Pradeep's B'Day. So, at the End of the Day, we need to cleanup his place, remove all those Balloons. so, thought of conducting BBC (Balloon Bursting Ceremony) in the evening, when most of the ppl are left. At around 8pm, I informed the security person that we're goin to burst balloons, so bear with us of the little noise. :) came back to Pradeep's Cubicle, looked at those Balloons which i blew 20hrs earlier. "i have to burst them all!!!!!!!". Felt hard on thinking like that. "i'm not goin to do that... never ever...". moved all those Balloons to my place, just adjacent to Pradeep's place. :) So, Here is how my place looks now (atleast for somedays)



Wish!!!!

Posted by redthil On 2/06/2009 07:29:00 PM

Wish You Happy Married Life Sandhya!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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